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Cherie Blair attacked mummies "delicious who choose to stay at home. Conversely,

Angela

Neustatter , author of a controversial book on women and home, holding a generation has put her career ahead of the needs of their children.

Yvonne Roberts challenges their views

Dear Angela

In the last week, his stimulating book

A Home for the Heart, first as the key to happiness

caused a new outbreak of 'heated debate at home moms and working mothers. Cherie Blair has its own position in the critical side "mummies delicious." You think that feminism meant women were denied their sacred obligation, on the verge of making a house a home. Also, you say: "A whole generation of women who put their needs above those of their children."

As you know from your research, you can attach a woman on the tracks, but I can not stand still. In 1915, Christine Frederick, a mother and housewife, influenced by the rise time and motion studies in plants, such as household chores minute and detailed reduce their domestic burden dramatically across the United States and written bestseller.

Household

Engineering , making internal management in a race.

What she and you seem to have in common is the assumption that the core of what happens in the home is largely the responsibility of women. Which is compulsory and lasts about men, women and children, and dates back to a narrow definition of traditional gender roles.

But instead of women who put their needs above their children, feminism was about to change the system, and not act as a recruiting sergeant for the maintenance of his salary domination slave. As a result, while two-thirds of mothers are employed, most younger children work part-time. This is only a partial victory. Not only working part-time, often at the expense of their future and lose foot on the ladder to promotion.

referring to mothers who return to work days after delivery -. These alpha females are most representative of the "mummies" yummy punished by Cherie Blair, who "seek to marry a rich man and retire"

His book is very comprehensive, covering children's rights, inter-generational homes, including his own, and cooperatives and municipalities. But why, I wonder, are there so few links between the private and the public: the world outside of the labor market and the economy, which mold our homes much more immediate than feminism

Best wishes, Yvonne

Dear Yvonne

wonder my book reads like the assumption that what happens at home is largely the responsibility of women, because I mean men in the context of what is happening, what happens emotionally, a good deal. However, I think the house is a place for women are especially prone to emotional value as a basis for the children, and the pain of having too little time and energy there. But this is not a nanosecond is what I come back to what life was like for women in 1950 Betty Friedan [author pioneering feminist tract

The Feminine Mystique

1963] described as living in a household, but yet it felt like "concentration camps." His role was the perfect backdrop for human life in the outside world.

Feminism

deliberately ignored the importance of the home as a place that, in the best case, nourishes us, and children, promotes relationships and gives us a sanctuary. But he was, rightly, very concerned about the great battles of structural change. I realized that it is essential to get back to work when my first son was four months to prove that women can do the job and family seamlessly. And no matter what the house - relationships with partners and children - at the end of our time scrag more lively and energetic

've written a lot about children and their mental health problems and I have to fight for greater recognition of how a good quality of life at home is vital to the well- being of families is something that women as mothers must take. So as men - but delivery should not add to the equation? Three decades of consumerism, worship and obsession with celebrity money did a lot of damage to our home appraisal -. This artist and writer John Berger instead described as a haven from the chaos of the outside world

Sincerely, Angela

Dear Angela

I agree that consumerism, long working hours, "money worship" (but more like addiction to debt, and the average income is very low) and culture celebrity regions have undermined the family. mental health of young people, in part because of the disintegration of the family, is also a concern that has rightly pointed out, for years. But I doubt the idea that women are somehow closer to the battle for a good quality of life, simply because they have the ability to have children.

centuries of conditioning without influence? Should not be too many parents responsible? In fact, this month

Atlantic magazine

, Anne-Marie Slaughter describes how much power was given five days a week working in Washington DC, while her husband 's care of their two children in New Jersey. She resigned. "Women can not have it all", he decided - not until there is a radical cultural change in employment, workaholics rebels, United States elects a president and 50 senators. And most importantly, not as men are enlisted in the cause of ensuring a better balance between work and home.

course, children need stability, time, love, pleasure and interest adults in their lives. But you seem to confuse a working mother (mixed with a little mea culpa

when you stay up late), with serious potential damage. Are not most children and stronger families? NO children benefit from the knowledge of a life beyond what controls the mummy? Some parents may have, and hold down three part-time jobs to survive. This is very different from the woman who chooses the party permanently rather than the mother. This is not feminism at work, it is selfish immaturity. And has never seen.

Best wishes, Yvonne

Dear Yvonne

agree with you that men should have the opportunity to also be involved in caring and sharing, and they, along with women, should be what is a political problem for a government that hits how family values. After all, we know that the quality of family life helps men and women relationships remain intact.

Some commentators seem to believe I'm saying that mothers should not work. No, but I think we should have the child's feelings in mind - that men should -. And we must understand what we are concerned with fighting could well mean the feminist struggle for happiness

So instead of women through the male model "Juggernaut" jobs as a way to show equality, we can do better to lead a revolution in home appreciated the benefits offered by society.

I think, like sex, feeding a child inside, and is often the first line of physical union, we perform a particular emotional strength for the battle for life at home the place where children spend much of their time to training. It is not to exclude men, but to recognize the nature and culture.

regarding the nature and culture: city [in the book], actress Monica Bellucci, Vincent Cassel married. She says that since they are separated by stretches of time, it is unrealistic to expect Cassel to do without sex. Why? Because he is a man, and as it says in the Victorian era, men are "natural" uncontrollable impulses? Or she is the submissive wife standing on one side, while her husband has his cake and eat it? You write: "It is very important to re-imagine the value of the house."
Why reimagining? Several social changes, such as constant tidal wave, you can try to loosen the anchor of domestic life, but the miracle is that the elastic life and family was difficult, remodeling and survive against wind and tides.

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